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Life with an Ileostomy: Darlene’s 180 Medical Community Story

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Around 1.6 million Americans are living with inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), such as Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis. The symptoms of IBD can range from mild discomfort to severe pain and fatigue as well as bouts with diarrhea, constipation, and bowel blockages. We were lucky enough to talk to one of those strong survivors of Crohn’s disease in the 180 Medical Community.

We’d love for you to meet Darlene. She is a strong and incredibly positive woman who has faced immense challenges due to living with IBD. However, thanks to ileostomy surgery and the right ostomy products, her life has truly turned around. You’ll be inspired by her positive attitude and even get some of her helpful tips for living with an ostomy.

Darlene Shares About Life with an Ileostomy

Darlene was just 19 years old when she began experiencing sudden, unusual symptoms of diarrhea. “I felt like I couldn’t go anywhere because I never knew when I would have to go to the bathroom. And when I had to go, I had to go,” she says.

Next, she began feeling unusual pain and fatigue. When she lost over 100 pounds within just a month, her parents took her to the hospital.

“From there, I went through just about every test you can imagine – from x-rays of my pancreas and various tests like an endoscopy and colonoscopy,” Darlene says. Given the inflammation in her colon, the doctor thought Darlene had ulcerative colitis.

She began taking 22 pills a day and had regular colonoscopies and other checkups to make sure everything was going alright. Things seemed to get better for a while. However, after she gave birth to her first child, her symptoms took a turn for the worse.

Growing more concerned, Darlene decided to see a new GI (gastrointestinal) doctor. After some extensive tests, he discovered Darlene didn’t have ulcerative colitis; she had Crohn’s disease. He changed her medications to treat the correct condition. Things improved for a while but not long after, Darlene developed an intestinal blockage the size of a softball. To her dismay, her doctor told her it was time for ostomy surgery.

darlene with her boston terriers
Darlene with her Boston terriers

Relieving the Fear of Ostomy Surgery

At first, Darlene was scared of the idea of having an ostomy. Luckily, her sister introduced her to a friend who had an ostomy after a bout with colon cancer.

Darlene says, “Once she explained her circumstance and literally showed me her stoma and pouch, that helped me immensely. Seeing that she made it through all that really put me at ease.”

Her ostomy nurses also greatly helped her with the transition to life as an ostomate. “After I had the surgery, I had three fantastic ostomy nurses,” says Darlene. “They came in the very next day after my surgery. They started explaining to me how I go about doing what I needed to do, such as how to clean my stoma, what to watch out for, and the basic ostomy guidelines.”

Looking back, Darlene says her ostomy nurses were truly a saving grace for her. Having that friend to talk to about living with an ostomy was also a huge part of getting past her fears.

When you have someone to talk to, someone who can show you what they deal with and what their life is like with some type of ostomy, then you get the human side of it. That makes a big difference.
Darlene, 180 Medical Community Member

180 Medical Was There for Darlene’s Ostomy Needs

After Darlene got back home, she says it took at least a few weeks to get used to living with her new ostomy. “My biggest fear was having leakage or an accident where the pouch could pop off.”

Luckily, 180 Medical was right there for all of Darlene’s ostomy supply needs. “Whenever I had issues, I knew I could call 180 Medical. The ostomy specialists were very knowledgeable and walked me through every scenario.”

Plus, 180 Medical was able to connect her to our team of Convatec ostomy nurses for more help.

Even when she dealt with challenges like skin irritation and stoma prolapse, 180 Medical and the team of Convatec nurses were there through it all.

“Whenever I had issues or had to change from size to size, 180 Medical always sent me ostomy samples and gave me anything I needed.”

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Darlene’s Tips for Adjusting to Life with an Ileostomy

Now that Darlene has lived with her ostomy for a while, she has learned a thing or two. Here are a few of Darlene’s tips for life with an ileostomy, colostomy, or urostomy.

Tip 1. Contact 180 Medical to find the right ostomy products for your needs.

The first tip Darlene has for others with ostomies is to find the right supplier.

“What I like about 180 Medical is that everybody there is caring,” she says. “It’s not like when you call some company and talk to a salesperson where they’re not really listening to your problems. When you call 180 Medical, you get someone who really cares. You connect with a human. They understand. If I have issues, I know I can pick up my phone and call 180 Medical.”

Through 180 Medical, she has found new ostomy accessories that have really helped her ostomy routine. For example, she loves the Sensi-Care Sting-free Adhesive Remover. “That stuff really works!”

She loves the skin protection of the Moldable Eakin Cohesive Seals. These ostomy seals help provide more security from leakage.

Also, she likes to use an ostomy belt. “Using that ostomy belt just gives me a little more support. Now It’s just second nature to me. I put it on every day. Those pouches can get a little heavy sometimes!”

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Tip 2. Find others with ostomies, such as a local support group.

“Through my local hospital, two ostomy nurses there lead a support group. When you go, you know you’re not alone. There are ostomy patients there with all types of ostomies: urostomy, ileostomy, and colostomy. And it’s really nice to talk to different people and hear their experiences and have a camaraderie with them.”

In addition to finding a sense of community in a support group, attendees also often get educational opportunities as well as other helpful ostomy resources.

Tip 3. Listen to your body and take care of your health.

Before her ostomy surgeries, Darlene had to avoid certain foods due to her severe IBD. However, after ostomy surgery, she’s also learned to stay away from some types of foods that can cause issues with her ileostomy, such as corn and nuts. Also, certain foods, such as cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, may cause more gas in people with colostomies or ileostomies.

You should consult with your doctor or a qualified ostomy nurse to determine if you need to avoid any foods after your ostomy surgery.

Next, Darlene mentions she drinks a lot of water every day because that was something her ostomy nurses told her to do. “With an ileostomy, you may not be absorbing as much water because you don’t have the same length of bowels anymore,” she says. “I drink at least 64 oz. of water a day. I drive a school bus part-time, and I always take my thermos with me so I can make sure to drink my water.”

Plus, Darlene regularly takes vitamins to make sure she doesn’t have any nutritional deficiencies with her ileostomy.

“Since my ostomy, I’ve just naturally become more conscientious of my health,” she says.

Tip 4. Pay attention to your pouch and empty it regularly.

“I typically empty my ileostomy pouch when it’s about a 1/3 to 1/2 full. I probably empty my pouch 10 times or more a day. A normal person with an ostomy may get away with fewer times per day, but because I have Crohn’s and an ileostomy, I have higher output. You just learn your own routine and roll with it.”

So why is it so important to regularly empty your pouch? It can help reduce the risk of ostomy leakage, skin irritation, and more.

“Sometimes it’s not just the weight of the pouch,” Darlene says. “It can also be the pressure of the liquid output under the seal. It will try to find the weakest point and come out.”

Darlene even sets her alarm in the middle of the night to empty her pouch if she needs to. “During the night, your bowels aren’t as active, but if you have a lot of liquid in there, you need to get up and empty it,” she says. This will help you avoid messes in bed and pajama changes in the night.

She also tries to only sleep on her side or back and never on her belly to avoid disturbing the pouch or the skin barrier’s seal.

Tip 5. Stay positive.

Lastly, Darlene says the biggest part of getting used to life with an ileostomy, colostomy, or urostomy is to stay positive.

She says that while she knows firsthand it isn’t always easy, it’s better to remember the positives. “My health is better, and my life is better. Occasionally, your stoma might have gas, and you just have to laugh about it. If I have a leak, okay. We just do what we have to do. Laugh about life a little. Life goes on. An ostomy is really not that bad.”

One of the turning points for Darlene was when she was in the hospital at 19 years old. “I was having a real rough time of it with all the pain and medication. My father came to see me and said, ‘Darlene, you can do one of two things. You can let this disease control you, or you can take control of the disease.’ When he put that into perspective for me, it really made sense. I decided this disease would never defeat me, and today I am at a better place with everything. My father was a man of few words, but when he said that to me, it made all the difference.”

Darlene gardening
Darlene stays active in her garden.

Darlene Is Living Life to the Fullest with Her Ileostomy

Despite challenges along the way, Darlene is healthy and happy today. Her Crohn’s has been in remission for going on four years, and she’s currently not taking any medications.

“Here I am, six years later, and what I’m doing is working for me now,” she says. “If I have issues, I know I can pick up my phone and call 180 Medical.”

Plus, she has a great support system with her family. In fact, she counts her family as one of the main reasons why she has been able to get through all the hurdles. “Through all my surgeries, my sisters and my husband were there for me. My son has been there for me. Just knowing they’re all there for a hug makes a world of difference for me. Having a good support system goes a long way.”

darlene and her grandchild

She enjoys her part-time job of driving a school bus while also taking time to enjoy simple pleasures like cuddling with her Boston terriers. Also, she stays active with gardening and playing with her grandchildren.

Speaking to Darlene was truly a pleasure and an inspiration. Above all, we’re honored to be Darlene’s ostomy supply provider and to be there any time she needs us.

If you’re looking for an ostomy supply company, reach out to us at 180 Medical. We’re ready to provide you with high-quality ostomy supplies along with our friendly, reliable customer service.

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About the Author
Life with an Ileostomy: Darlene’s 180 Medical Community Story
Jessica is the Sr. Marketing Specialist at 180 Medical, and she has been with the company for 15 years. She loves getting to be creative in her role and hearing from customers about the positive impact we've made on their lives.

Outside of work, you can find her hanging out with her husband and their dogs or browsing garden centers (where she will almost certainly buy another houseplant she doesn't really need).